Put the match down.

Like most of America and the world I have been watching the US burn. I am not surprised. Frankly I am surprised it has taken this long. Living in the Southern US I have been aware that we are sitting on a pile of kindling for awhile. Naively I believed that most of the racism…

A chicken is sometimes just walking

Like everyone else, I have my breaking point. I lose my shit. It has happened here. It has happened on IG. It doesn’t happen often but it happens and it happened Sunday on Twitter. Woman shares a video captured from a phone of a woman in Florida attacking an SUV. No background on why she…

What the dog taught me

A few months ago my bulldog came running back inside after a successful business trip to the backyard. In her spazz sprint inside she got her nail stuck in the sliding door track. Being the neurotic creature that she is she freaked out, that’s the clinical term I’m sure, and jerked so hard it ripped…

My cynical heart

In September I was dumped. Dumped on the level of a 7th grader. He dumped me via a text, blocked me on social media and phone. I never heard a word from the man who two hours previously claimed to love me. Here’s the issue: I’m over him but I’m not open to dating again….

Love. Avoidance and Truth

I always believed in love. The books I read, movies I watched, and what I was told by adults always made me think that one day my soulmate would find me and I’d live happily ever after. My disillusionment happened much like someone’s loss of faith. Something horrific happens and you question if there is…

The Case for Weed

When I was younger I smoked a lot of weed. It was my Xanax. I lived with a mentally and physically abusive parent. When your parent is mentally unstable you may get a belt for asking what’s for dinner or because your sibling didn’t do her chores. My mother kicked me out my senior year…

Bisexual women are the crux of the problem

Sometimes I read things and feel enough succinct points were made that maybe I need to reexamine my beliefs or viewpoints. I strongly believe that by not discussing things we will never find solutions. But I am frankly tired of talking about guns. Is it the Republicans’ fault for telling everyone that the evil liberals…

She left me speechless

I keep spare umbrellas in my car. I collect them at work and ask for them at other medical offices. Personally I’ve never lost an umbrella. I’m OCD and always know exactly where my “things” are. I keep the umbrellas and hand them out when it rains to people at bus stops. I don’t ride…

You host a BBQ, I’ll host a funeral

In high school, I played soccer. I was friends with two other girls on my team who known to me were a couple. With the exception of one other person, no one in our school knew. It was speculated and gossiped but their being lesbians was the great mystery for the rest of the student…

I am disgusted we are here

We are on the wire. This man will probably be appointed.  Let me tell why I feel this is not okay. Our country is currently divided. It is across racial and sexual divides. It also extends beyond generations. Younger men feel alienated from older men. This is making it worse. a man who is supposed…

I asked for my rape

My posse my senior year was Kristen and Lora.  Lora was dating a guy who told us to attend a party that Saturday in the neighboring city.  The Posse got dressed up and went to what was a high school party of frat party levels. The home was a mansion on a lake with a…

Sometimes a shoulder is just a shoulder

My friend Paula is crippled from childhood rheumatic arthritis. When we go out together I drop her off at the door of the restaurant or we take her handicap placard to use if we know there will be a lot of walking like a concert venue. Recently we went on a girl’s weekend and I…