Put the match down.

Like most of America and the world I have been watching the US burn. I am not surprised. Frankly I am surprised it has taken this long. Living in the Southern US I have been aware that we are sitting on a pile of kindling for awhile. Naively I believed that most of the racism…

A chicken is sometimes just walking

Like everyone else, I have my breaking point. I lose my shit. It has happened here. It has happened on IG. It doesn’t happen often but it happens and it happened Sunday on Twitter. Woman shares a video captured from a phone of a woman in Florida attacking an SUV. No background on why she…

What the dog taught me

A few months ago my bulldog came running back inside after a successful business trip to the backyard. In her spazz sprint inside she got her nail stuck in the sliding door track. Being the neurotic creature that she is she freaked out, that’s the clinical term I’m sure, and jerked so hard it ripped…

The Big Picture

In her 20s, my sister Colleen asked our mother why she had built her up to the extent that she had an over inflated sense of attractiveness. She wanted to know why she had been told she was beautiful and I was told I was at least smart, therefore down playing my looks and praising…

Masturbation Olympian

I was diagnosed with the flu on Friday. Yes, I had a flu shot prior. Yes, I am on Tamiflu. Saturday my fever reached 102 and I am lying on my marble bathroom floor trying to get my feverish skin to accept the cold from the floor.  In my somewhat delusional state I began thinking…

My cynical heart

In September I was dumped. Dumped on the level of a 7th grader. He dumped me via a text, blocked me on social media and phone. I never heard a word from the man who two hours previously claimed to love me. Here’s the issue: I’m over him but I’m not open to dating again….

Love. Avoidance and Truth

I always believed in love. The books I read, movies I watched, and what I was told by adults always made me think that one day my soulmate would find me and I’d live happily ever after. My disillusionment happened much like someone’s loss of faith. Something horrific happens and you question if there is…

The Case for Weed

When I was younger I smoked a lot of weed. It was my Xanax. I lived with a mentally and physically abusive parent. When your parent is mentally unstable you may get a belt for asking what’s for dinner or because your sibling didn’t do her chores. My mother kicked me out my senior year…

Why manners matter

I once wrote a post on Fetlife about manners and etiquette. I wrote that I have seen a decline in these things over the years and how it saddens me. Manners are how we behave in regards to one another. Etiquette is a code of acceptable behavior; it tells us how to respond and interact…

Bisexual women are the crux of the problem

Sometimes I read things and feel enough succinct points were made that maybe I need to reexamine my beliefs or viewpoints. I strongly believe that by not discussing things we will never find solutions. But I am frankly tired of talking about guns. Is it the Republicans’ fault for telling everyone that the evil liberals…

I’m a predator

The women in my family are of stern stuff. “Weaklings cry.” Showing vulnerability is weakness and weakness will be exploited. I learned very early in my life to hide my emotions and keep my true self camouflaged. It was as if I knew I had to protect my child self and anticipated unwrapping her when…

Perspectives

Today I’ve read three articles about the R. Kelly interview with Gayle King. Two of the articles references several Tweets giving their view of what happened at one climatic moment when R. Kelly stands and addresses the camera passionately while Gayle sits poised and perfectly still. Opinions vary as to what we are seeing. Several…